our son had Pena-Shokeir syndrome {surviving infant loss}

Learning that our son had Pena-Shokeir syndrome when he was born.

Laughton was born at 8:30 pm and just two short hours later, I was forced to begin the grieving process.  They let us take him back to the room with us and even though I was still pretty loopy from the aftermath of my own surgery, I didn’t want to sleep knowing how little time I had with him to say goodbye.  Through blurred senses I tried as best I could to memorize every feature.

By morning, after a dreadful night and very little sleep, we were being asked whether or not we wanted an autopsy performed.  In that moment, my initial reaction was that there wasn’t a chance I wanted it done.  The thought of what would happen to my son during the process was too much on top of what I was already trying to cope with.

However, after talking it over for a few minutes with Graham and the doctors, we did ultimately decide it would be beneficial to have an autopsy completed.  I had to quickly realize it may be the only way we were going to get any answers.

It turns out the results of the autopsy are not only providing us with some closure, but we are also being provided with answers that we absolutely needed in planning for our future.

They found that our son had a very rare syndrome called “Pena-Shokeir”.  It is estimated to happen in only about 1 out of every 15,000 births.  Because of how infrequently it does happen, though, there is very little data and the medical world is still trying to figure it out.

But essentially, this syndrome was the cause for his arthrogryposis, the polyhydramnios {excessive amniotic fluid}, the early term membrane rupture, and his hypoplastic lungs.  The hypoplastic {underdeveloped} lungs were ultimately what was noted as the cause of death.  At his gestational age, the lungs should have weighed about 22 grams {roughly the same as 22 paperclips}.  When Laughton was born, his lungs were only 2 grams in weight.  Having Pena-Shokeir prevented his lungs from growing as they should have.

Even though this syndrome is extremely rare, what they do know is that babies born with it do not survive, if they even make it to birth.  Therefore, we were very lucky in the fact that we did have a couple of hours with Laughton.

Pena-Shokeir is very similar to Trisomy 18 in the way that it presents.  However, at this time, there is no way to test {parents} for genetic flaws that can lead to Pena-Shokeir like there is with Trisomy 18.

That is why the best estimation Graham and I were given was that it was a 50% chance the syndrome was passed on genetically and a 50% chance that it was “unlucky circumstances” Laughton had this.  Basically, because they do not know how to test our genetics to see whether or not we are both recessive carriers of some genetic flaw, and because there is such little data for them to study, the 50/50 scenario is the least biased one they could give us.

What I did hear, however, was that there is a pretty good chance all of this happened {losing Laughton and all of my miscarriages} because of a rare genetic flaw that both Graham and I may carry.

In the end, we will not be taking the chance of having this happen to another child ever again.  If this syndrome really does occur because of a genetic flaw, since we now have had a child with the syndrome, we would have a 25% chance of it happening again {where we both pass on the recessive version, versus one or two dominant versions, of whichever chromosome relates to this syndrome}.

God really did have adoption as a part of the plan for us to grow our family.

Was requesting an autopsy hard?  Absolutely.  But, it has turned out to have provided us with a {somewhat} better understanding of the past half-a-decade of our lives.

And I am not sad that we will never have another child naturally.  Graham and I {more than anything else} have always just wanted to share our love with children, to be parents, and it does not matter whether our children grew in my belly or in our hearts.

I am heartbroken, though, at the fact that we put Laughton through this even though we had no idea and would have never chosen this path for him.  I would give anything to have him back, but I know he is watching over us.  Right now he is helping God choose his little brother or sister for us to love just as much as we love him.